This is so confusing, your beginning sentence was about how this server is to the point of not having fun. Then we go into drug references vs. suicide encouragement. Then we go back to the strictness of the server. Finally we end up on your own personal experiences and then conclude.
disclaimer: further usage of "you" refers to the general "you". There's always the one guy who thinks it's all about him and thinks I wrote specifically for him. I didn't.
Actual examples are generally backed up with evidence of a screenshot? There's context given as well? I fully agree that telling someone to kill themselves should be a permabannable offense. We don't live in that world, currently, so let's stick to how it is right now as that argument is fully different. If the player making a drug reference has a much longer ban history than the one committing the other offense, they're going to be punished more harshly whether the offense deserves it or not. Repeated infractions deserve harsher punishments until the point when they just say to heck with it and permaban you (see:VKL_Rewindzz, over 50 times).
Now, I can agree with you on the strictness part. This server is so much less tolerant than they were even just a year ago. I can totally agree that it's a good idea to change things, but I don't see why you can't accept that things aren't going to change and you aren't going to get your way. There are thousands of other servers and dozens of other media where you can make your drug reference. Why is this one the one you care so much about? Surely there's other humor that can be found in things that aren't against the rules? If your entire sense of humor results around breaking social taboos then the problem doesn't lie with the server.
To what end? Is your life going to be vastly impacted by getting to make a sex joke or a drug joke? Is this so paramount to your enjoyment of the game that the server is unplayable without it? I mean, if you can give me a solid reason why it would be beneficial to the server to do so then let me know because I'm genuinely interested to hear it. (No, you don't know that majority of the players would appreciate it, just the majority of the ones who shout the loudest).
tl;dr why
~ @IGotBored
Alright I can get you some threads on the drug references VS death threats
http://meepcraft.com/threads/i-actually-didnt-know-this.43425/
As for the death threats, I didn't bother taking screenshots because I wasn't going to report so I'll just pull up logs.
[16:33:20] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsA) [X] Person: platonic kys
[16:33:20] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/Creative) [Ultimate] kdocherty7: you matter mirrella.
[16:33:21] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (T/TownsB) [Premium] Chromixa: in the chroms we have a
[16:33:21] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] secret hideout. become a chrom and be nice! :D
[16:33:21] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] /msg us!
[16:33:21] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] Welcome creeperZombie21 to MeepCraft!
[16:33:24] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/Creative) [Supreme] Mirrella: thank yoi sheryr
[16:33:28] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/Spawn) [Ultimate] Burritoh: back
[16:33:33] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsA) [Exclusive] zsuzsu1: hi
[16:33:34] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsB) [Premium] Chromixa: burritoh
[16:33:37] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (T/Creative) [Arch] Draqq: buying ranks with meebles msg me
[16:33:38] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] Oh no, you fell! Type /spawn to go back to the spawn.
[16:33:38] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsB) [Elite] Tasmiki: Hey Kyle! Got that mic yet?
[16:33:39] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/Spawn) [Media] Bloopers: do i matter
[16:33:44] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsB) [Premium] Chromixa: on Pc? burritoh?
[16:33:46] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (MeepCraft) Join the action packed game of Halo at /warp
[16:33:46] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] halo!
[16:33:46] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (MeepCraft) Don't wait until it's too late to buy a 25% off rank
[16:33:46] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] in our Spring Sale. Go to meepcraft.com/upgrade
[16:33:46] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] now!
[16:33:47] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsA) [Exclusive] Khalter17: how do u get ride of the
[16:33:47] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] plotborder lines on a town
[16:33:47] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/Creative) [Ultimate] kdocherty7: Almost! Im on the way!
[16:33:48] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsA) [Helper] Staff Member: -- please stop that
[16:33:52] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsB) [Premium] Chromixa: in the chroms we have a
[16:33:52] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] secret hideout. become a chrom and be nice! :D
[16:33:52] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] /msg us!
[16:33:53] [Client thread/INFO]: [CHAT] (G/TownsA) [X] Person: y ?
It's not about the fact that servers allow swearing that make it appealing to me. I enjoy playing on meepcraft because my friends play on here, however whenever one person says something people deem "not allowed" they are quick to attack them. I'm not saying that I can't enjoy a server without being able to make references, that's not true at all. I just want to feel I can say some things from time to time without the entire server jumping on me. I'm sure you've experienced this at some point, or maybe not I'm not sure. All I'm trying to do is have the server ease up
Yes thank you we have now made 3+ threads on this, like I said earlier, all this is is a discussion. Make a suggestion if you actually wanna get somewhere.
~ @Klitch
Want me to copy paste the whole thing to suggestions or do you get the memo that something should be done if there are 3+ threads on it?